I have a hard time enjoying sex because I'm so worried about what my body looks like. What can I do to feel less self-conscious?
For starters, silence the all-too-familiar "I hate my body" soundtrack that's playing in your head. Instead, figure out what makes you feel desirable despite the cellulite (that only you can see) on your thighs. The answer lies in switching your attention from your so-called flaws to your pleasure portals. My number one antidote is to tap into your "turn on" and get to self-pleasuring. Start with a full-length mirror to view your body, crank up some hot dance music, and tell your reflection what a total hottie she is (seriously, do it!). A self-pleasuring session is even better when you get a little wild and embellish with props. For instance, I love my black embroidered floor-length silk kimono worn open. Or try applying a sensual fragrance or wearing a pair of sexy stilettos. Once you discover a few things that make you feel irresistible no matter what shape your body is in, your self-confidence will be a surefire turn-on for your guy. Because let's be honest: There's nothing hotter to a man than a woman who loves her body.
Dame Lori is a pleasure expert who has worked with thousands of men and women, teaching them to express themselves with sex and seduction. For more info and great advice, check out Dame Lori's blog, The Dame Game.