15 Ways to Channel Your Inner Seductress

It used to be so easy: You'd lock eyes across the dance floor, brush your hand along his thigh in the movie theater, linger just a little too long during the kiss goodnight. You remember: At the beginning of your relationship, the tiniest gestures made your man putty in your hands — and got your pulse racing too. But then life intervened. Now, that pleading glance across a crowded room is more likely to mean, Can we leave soon? Letterman starts in 10 minutes!

Hey, there's no reason you can't still channel the seductress you used to be. Your guy might not read as much into your every gesture as he once did, so "you'll probably have to be a little more obvious," says Scott Haltzman, M.D., a REDBOOK Love Network expert and author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men and The Secrets of Happily Married Women. "But not that much — he is still acutely sensitive to his sexual needs and your passionate wiles."

With these 15 sultry moves, you'll not only put a smile on his face, but you'll also strengthen your bond with him — not to mention give yourself the confidence boost that comes with remembering how very sexy you are. And at the next party, you can bet that your early departure will have nothing to do with late-night TV.

FOR SUPERHOT SEX
To switch gears in lovemaking from sweet to spicy, you need to mix things up a bit. "Hot sex is all about the anticipation of something different," says REDBOOK Love Network expert Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of Love in the Time of Colic. "It's about changing your approach and who you think you are in the bedroom. Don't be afraid to take a risk."

• Share a steamy fantasy. Always wanted to go at it in an elevator, à la Fatal Attraction? Been daydreaming about a Grey's-style fling in the hospital on-call room? Tell him. "Maybe it's something you'd never do, like have a threesome, but you could tell your guy about it in the context of a fantasy," Kerner says. "It stimulates the mind in a new way and can lead to unbelievable sex." Let your imagination run wild — just the thought of something totally risqué or out of your comfort zone is enough to get you both hot and bothered.
• Blare rock music. Your beau knows the score when you press play on Marvin Gaye — which is all the more reason to send him a signal that tonight's the night for something different. Pop in AC/DC's Black Ice with a wink and a nudge. The more intense the tunes, the more testosterone will pump through his system. Before you know it, he won't be able to keep his hands off you.
• Get a haircut. Or a new outfit. Or wear red lipstick instead of your typical clear gloss. "Men like variety," says Kerner. "If you're the girl who goes to bed in white undies, throw on a garter belt one night. It lends novelty and excitement and sets the scene for something hotter."